I think watching all of the shenanigans in and around E3 this year evoked similar feelings with me. I very much considermyself someone with some amount of gaming in my identity; but it feels like in many ways I am being handed my hat and ushered out the door at a party I am increasingly unwelcome at. It’s rough.
You are quite close there, to suggesting user disengagement (or at least promising easy disengagement exit points) as a cornerstone of ethical game design; and I quite like the idea.