I’ve run into this a lot lately: confronting what needs to be said and done to help Clover, I realize I have very little to draw on beyond common sense. I don’t have a relationship with my parents. And I’ve been spending my adult life trying to escape their psychic shadow in my mind.
So when I think, “what needs to be established for a child to thrive?”, I consider the upper level of my comprehension to be the ceiling.
Mitigation: surround myself and C by lots of others, teach critical discretion, activate human curiosity.
Also, imagine myself beyond myself. Do the mental time travel, come back to now, make the changes for the brightest timeline.