I was reflecting on how I approach money with Clover, and how the adults around me spoke to me about money. I don’t feel I am particularly principled when it comes to cash, and my family was very poor. We got a ridiculous allowance, something like a quarter a week or something, so it was not really a part of our family’s culture, except to demonstrate how much poorer we were than others.
Clover gets money from grandparents, and as parents I think @susan and I look for opportunities to tie Clover’s cash to some Clover-specific consequence. For example, “you save up money until you have enough to afford that toy”.
But if Susan and I discuss a serious budgetary subject, anything that requires planning between us, Clover wants to get involved, and even contribute. And my thinking is, “okay, but your little amount won’t even dent this, and you will have to worry about this a lot when you get older so how about you just keep your cash monies for toys and candy (and the few chances we offer those for purchase)”.
And that is dismissive, the same way the adults around me weren’t taking me serious or teaching me what I wanted. And when I am confronted by something like that, I muster the effort it takes to compensate, I’d go out of my way to explain what is happening and why… except, is this a subject I want to spend the effort on?
I work with money more and more, because the direction of the web is for folks to make the monies. So I think about it a lot, as a system. And it is easy for me to think of it as a transaction-based value ledger. I also have to provision hardware for years at a time, and invoice quarterly, so I think of money as a pain-in-the-ass math problem I have to constantly solve in order to keep such soft, hydrated hands. Simpler math is doing manual labor for hourly payments, but fuck that, amirite?
It is also easy for me to think of as an arbitrary system because it is an arbitrary system and burn it all down. Er, I meant I am not sure if I want to learn the skills required to teach the skills required for Clover to be good at capitalism.
If you are a peon living next to an arena those in power use to throw events to distract from everyone’s pain and suffering at their hands, do you raise your kid to be a gladiator?
That is a quote from my head when I am laying in bed thinking of ways to get people to empathize with me…
So I alternate between taking money way too serious and not serious at all, and am afraid if I should encourage my kid to be good at one thing that seems to hurt the most people. Got all that? Cool, what are you doing?